Want To Try To Grow Stronger Through The Holidays, Not Just Survive Them?

If you are indeed one of those experiencing grief that seems to have you (and your life) stopped in your tracks, we'd like to share a few thoughts when you feel ready. In our grief counseling and spirit communication work over the past 16-years, a holiday-theme has emerged in common messages from loved ones now living in the spirit dimension. It goes something like this;

I know it's tough for you, and I'm sad because you are sad.

I'm doing well—and this death-thing seems to be so much more difficult for YOU than it is for me. I fully understand why that is. After all, I've found that I'm still alive, just existing in a different place. A place of beauty, and feeling surrounded in love. I still continue to grow and work on my "stuff!"I don't have to deal with the negative five-senses junk you still have to deal with. Physical ailments, financial problems, ego mind-games, difficult relationships. As we all learned, earth-life is no picnic.

I'm doing well because I have the ability to "see" and understand that, no matter how tough things get for you, physically or emotionally, everything works out well in the end—and that it's ALL for a good reason and purpose, and the great thing is, we'll eventually be together again. On the other hand, YOU feel "in the dark" most of the time—and are left to wonder about the future. Sadly, you don't have that gift of knowing what I know. Sadly, you are stuck in that grief of separation. You see, I don't feel that separation because we are NOT separated. I receive every thought you think of me and every emotion you feel toward me.

I know when you are thinking about getting a haircut or going to a movie, or thinking about doing your toenails, and when you are driving to visit a friend or remembering our time together as you look at some of our old pictures. We are in constant communication. and guess what -- it doesn't get on my nerves at all, when you tell me twenty times a day how much you love me or how much you miss me, or that you want me to come back!

The truth is, you and I are more connected now then when I was living in an earth body. there was more separation then because of ego stuff, and a ton of what seemed to be negative things to be dealt with that sometimes blocked our ability to communicate. All that has been removed and I feel more connected and "closer" to you now than I ever did.

I understand you are not experiencing the same gifts of that connected feeling. I'm sad because you are sad, and you are left to struggle with that feeling of separation and the fear of the unknown when it comes to the future.

And now, here come the holidays. a time we used to enjoy together. My wish for you—in fact my message for you is—WE CAN STILL DO THAT! Can you try to focus on the fact that I am still alive—just in a different form. Trust me when I say that my physical death has not ended our relationship—it only has helped us both progress on the thing we call our spiritual journey.

When you sit in the darkness, crying, I'm sitting there with you. If you are dining with friends, I'm enjoying that with you. Maybe this idea will help you. Try to focus on our time together—our fun together—what we gained -- and try, little by little focus on my death or your feeling of loss. Try to focus on life and not death. Try to focus on celebrating our time together and less on this brief time we'll be apart.

I'm not saying DON't GREIVE! It's important to grieve and move those emotions trough your mind and body. What I'm asking you is, don't keep focusing on your grief or that sense of loss once you cry them out and move beyond them. It might surprise you to know that once you deal with your grief and get back into life again, you will actually FEEL me more. You will actually feel my presence around you more.

You are easier to connect with when you are in a "love space!" When you are in love with life again. Hating life and my physical absence, well, that energy blocks our ability to communicate with each other. Blocks your ability to feel my presence.

Please try—but I understand if you need a bit more time. This earth experience we chose to learn from is a tough one—at times unforgiving. But trust me—it DOES get better. Please try your best as I continue to love and cherish you—and US!

We are so sorry for your loss. Actual human-to-human support will do you a world of good at this moment in time.

Here's a website we recommend you visit for support from others who have experienced a recent loss.

Go to; www.groww.org/chat

Our prayer is for your peace, comfort and healing. You will heal.